Emotional Reaction

People tend to compare emotions to irrelevant metaphores such as changing or stopping an emotional reaction like how they change the parts of a car.Saying something and actually doing something are two very different things.You know how people say "I hate him" or "I hate her" and ends up crying when something unfortunate happens to that latter person.Well,can't they just admit the fact and their own feelings instead of lying to themselves?I understand that most people want to change themselves,however,it is not through cheap lines and publicly announcing it.The only one that needs to know of your determination is none other than yourself.The assumption seems to be that if we change one thing the whole problem will go away when it is obvious that the 'one thing' won't be change with just snapping your fingers.Through observation from everyday live situation,I can safely conclude that this approach and attitude to change emotional reaction does more harm than good. Usually,with a sense of regret or guilt for not being true to oneself.The typical emotional reaction is as stated.

Happy : Usually very cheerful and always with a smile
Sad : Most of the time crying,or tearing.Otherwise silent.
Frustrated : Getting angry at anything,anyone,anytime,anywhere
Depressed : Very negative and pessimistic

There are actually many more other types or emotions and typical reactions.Like how most people,usually men,start using their fists and attempt to be violent,to settle their 'problems' whenever they're angry.And then they go on a blab about how we would understand if we're in their situation.Yeah right,don't categorise others as barbarians much like yourself.Just because somebody is rude to you or insults you,doesn't give you the right to take action.It only gives you the right to do the same.Use words against other's words.Otherwise,go get help for anger management or you just simply have very low Emotional Intelligence(EQ).Unfortunately, many people view this as 'manly' or 'strong'.Maybe I'm weird but I view it as stupid and childish.Well,I'd bet we'd all be weird after watching this.

Found this somewhere while browsing through the web
(No,it's not porn)
Sigh,one word

Despicable

To change emotional reactions we would be better served to think of our mind and emotions as a garden.It is a living growing field of emotional energy that we plant seeds in, water, nurture, and bring to life.We want to nurture the fruit that bears emotions of happiness and gratitude and we want to pluck out the weeds of sadness and anger.Every expression we make goes into that emotional field.When you express judgments about emotional reactions you are planting and watering another weed in your mind.It's best to cure the negative emotions rather than preventing it.Sometimes,prevention is not better than cure.

Otherwise,people resort to denial as a way to shut down their emotions and thus,have no reactions to it.Think of it as a spraying weed killer on the whole garden.You'd successfully kill the weeds,but you'll also kill the fruit.Thus,you won't feel much anger or sadness,but you won't feel love,joy or happiness either.Basically,you'd be soulless.But,is this a bad thing?Imagine a situation where you've just lost somebody important.If you were soulless,you wouldn't feel sad.Which ultimately leads to no suffering of lost.And how is suffering ever good? It's always wise to look at things in a third point of view.Everything has two sides of their own stories.Don't look at the the unfortunate one and assume the entire story.Don't think whenever you're frustrated,you're automatically given the rights to be rude to others.

Everybody's got their problems

Everybody says the same thing to you

But,really?

It's just a matter of how you solve them

And knowing how to change the things you've been through

Emotions

"Those in power never want us to feel

Thought can be controlled and manipulated

But emotions is willful and unpredictable"

It's normal to be upset when others tend to be rude when they're emotional

But,it's also normal for wanting to be there for the ones who are important

Whether the situation is up or down,sweet or sour

Till next time.